long story short my dad died when i was a little kid and now a get an nice sized annuity annually but its undermining my dignity if that makes sense.
all the stuff ive ‘done’ with it and bought self doesn’t really feel mine. i didn’t work for any of it. if someone were to steal all my possessions ive bought my self i can honestly say it wouldn’t feel like ‘my stuff’ was being stolen. (not to say i wouldn’t be mad lol)
some stuff doesn’t make me feel that way. ive been using it to pay for school and i since i have to work for my grades it ‘feels’ like i earned it.
is this normal?
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January 25th, 2010 at 1:35 am
First of all, I’m sorry for your loss! It’s never easy to lose a parent. Secondly, do what you can with what you have. Your dad will be proud for what you accomplish. Don’t feel guilty, just live your life and make your life BETTER.
January 25th, 2010 at 1:35 am
It is normal to have a lesser valuation of things that one hasn’t earned through sweat and tears, so don’t beat yourself up about that.
Having money is supposed to free you to do the things that poor slobs like me (who have not annuity) aren’t able to do, because work occupies so much of our time. Here’s an easy solution for you. When the annuity comes, invest it in low-risk bonds or certificates of deposit. In other words, don’t spend it. Get out, get yourself a job and work for the things you want, and then you’ll have a greater appreciation of them.
Your dad did a good thing by leaving you money. He meant for you to have an easier road, and he certainly didn’t consider that having it easier might make you unhappy. You needn’t be unhappy. Put the money away for later - for when you’re done with school and want to buy a house - for when you marry and want to setup a fund for your own kids - for when you want to retire at a young age. You don’t have to spend it now, just because you’re receiving it now.
You control the money; it doesn’t control you.
Good luck!
January 25th, 2010 at 1:35 am
you shouldn’t feel bad about it.
January 25th, 2010 at 1:35 am
yes sweetheart of course its normal. if you want to feel diferently you could maybe donate the money to charity (the surplus) and just keep a little bit for living costs, food rent etc. but give the rest away that you dont need.
some humans love to be ambitious and earn their prizes. you seem to be the ambitious type and thats an excellent personality type to have.
January 25th, 2010 at 1:35 am
If it will make you feel better you can send it to me !
January 25th, 2010 at 1:35 am
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