Everyday i wake up its another issue behind money. DOEs it seem to you that money controls everything in your life? I can only go here if i have this much i cant go there cause i don't have the money. Its like every decision is based on money without money you have no food no clothing you cant help others you cant get in your car and go somewhere because you don't have money for gas or you may not have the money for a car. I work just to pay bills and hell they be late sometimes i hold so much anger inside because i fell like money controls my life. What can you possibly do without money?You work so hard everyday get up early to make someone else rich.You get what they feel you should make. I see others able to go and get them some new shoes or new clothes r something they want why i cant or i have to keep putting it off cause i don't have the money. My husband just started a second job a couple of weeks ago so i don't get to spend as much time with him and he Carry's so much weight on his shoulder trying so hard to keep things together.I work by commission as a hair stylist i love what i do but the money doesn't seem to be enough right now i don't have much of a understanding of life is truly about do anyone of you share the same story?
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May 21st, 2009 at 7:11 am
You allow money to control every aspect of your life because you have been (like most humans) brainwashed into believing its necessary to have it in order to live. Humans are the only animal on the planet that requires money (actually just paper with printing on it) to control their lives. Every other animal, some living over a century, do just fine without ever needing a single cent. Interesting, huh?
May 21st, 2009 at 7:11 am
I had lots of years where it was from paycheck to pay check and it sucked, I felt like I was always working for the man. But the one thing it did do is make me feel grateful for what I have been able to do since then and I appreicate things a whole lot more. Just so you know the one thing, the most important thing that there is that money can't buy is love. If you have that you can have a whole lot more than you are giving yourself credit for. What you can't do is let the things you don't have tear you up so bad that you throw that away in the process. But happiness ins't something that you can buy either, it is something that comes from inside, when you are thankful for a good mate, for a job when they are tight, being able to pay the bills, even if they may be late, you have to see them as your blessings, not your pitfalls, then you will start to feel better and when you feel better things feel easier. The only thing you have to do is keep your eye on the goal you have set and each day be thankful that it may be a little closer. It may not be a straight line to get there, we have to sometimes take detours back and forth to get there, but as long as we don't lose sight of it you will make it.
May 21st, 2009 at 7:11 am
The first person who answered has a point. But it is almost impossible for someone to live well in America without money. It's draining going to work every day for just another "regular" salary but at least I'm working. There's plenty of people without a job right now so I am lucky that I have that. It could be worse…
May 21st, 2009 at 7:11 am
well, i know it is hard to say, but true. i have been there. my boyfriend and i have been together for 8 years. we were together through college. after he graduated he could not find a job. with my degree in psychology, the money i was making just wasn't cutting it for the both of us. it did make me bitter and angry. he was depressed. but you can't let yourself get stuck there. there are things that you can do with little or no money…. and you have to find those things (be creative) and do them. sitting around day in and day out is just going to make it worse. go hiking, camping, fishing….. hang out at the park. you need to do things. keep your mind active. it will get better.
May 21st, 2009 at 7:11 am
I know this is difficult but this recession won't last forever. Don't try to keep up with people who are buying new things;you will just dig yourself into a hole. Between the 2 of you, you have 3 jobs; better than a lot of people. Start a gratitude journal and put your husband at the top. He sounds like a great catch. What he needs to see when he comes home is a smile on your face. Try not to complain about anyything, especially money. Life is stressful for you right now, but if you can get through this ,someday you will look back on it and remember that you learned a lot in the face of adversity. Turn to God; he loves you. People, if you need a haircut go to Mrs. Maria and tip well!
May 21st, 2009 at 7:11 am
Without money you can't do a few things, but we all have to understand. All we REALLY NEED while living is money for rent/house payment,transportation, clothes, and food. Not saying all this stuff is FREE, but it really puts things into perspective when you observe how other countries are living. You see something we are all guilty of is what type of house or apartment we have, or what type of clothes we wear, or what places we go out to eat instead of clipping coupons and buying groceries. Most of the United States is struggling with money issues myself included, but you can't let a lack of money get you depressed and angry. I know it is easier said than done it can be frustrating at times but you can't let it be what you think about most of your day. Keep your head up and just try to appreciate the things you have now there is more to life. I've come to find out the things that bring me joy in my life money cannot buy. I will pray for you and your husband. I hope this helped in some way.
(Oh yeah don't forget to smile God loves u)
May 21st, 2009 at 7:11 am
What you have is the 'Keeping Up with The Joneses' complex, dear. Just accept what you do have and quit comparing your life with others. You may never know their situation. They could be in worse shape, financially, than you. But, it's how they handle their situation that gets them through the day (some don't care (which is crazy). some live in denial. some save up for the object of their desire. some can simply afford their lifestyle). But, you shouldn't let what they do determine how you want to live. Find yourself. Life can be richer without spending a lot on frivolous things. After all, those things only give you temporary happiness. Just live simply and be creative about doing things that don't require you to spend a lot of money. You may find that you enjoy it.
-Go to the park and have a picnic.
-Have a picnic in your back yard.
-Partake in free events that interest you that may be going on in your community.
You can do it. Good luck to you.
May 21st, 2009 at 7:11 am
Does money frustrate and anguish me?
Most definitely!!! Actually, my frustration is directed at the fact that there is a pandemic of economic injustice. Here in the United States, you can actually get more money if the company fails than if it succeeds if you are acquainted with the correct people. Believe it or not, student loan lenders make MORE money if you default than if you keep up with the payments because the Washington Columbia District pays the principal of the loans in question along with the interest and tardiness/collection fees. What this means is that student loan lenders get a huge windfall from the Washington Columbia District for every debtor that defaults in addition to the revenue extracted from the debtor's micro-economy through the regular monthly payments. Sallie Mae was about to declare me in default due to a nearly $660 outstanding balance that they wanted me to pay in addition to the $105.34/month — neither of which I could afford. I had Wells Fargo intercede to buy my loans away from Sallie Mae when I realized that my subsistence micro-economy was going to be imploded regardless of whether I play fair or foul. The $56/month payments that are being asked of me are much easier to deal with; as of late, I have been able to make $110 monthly payments that really whittle down the principal. The only downside is that it will take a little more than two years (27 months) before I can put the whole failed post-secondary education attempt behind me; even with that debt retired, I still have the same subsistence micro-economy I started with and the root cause (employers' unrealistic expectations and assumptions of me due to my Asperger's syndrome) has not been addressed at all. That dynamic really broils my brisket not just because of its injustice but because I cannot overturn it on my own.
I would love nothing more than to see specialized passenger trains running all over the place and for modern land utilization practices that get the most bang for the buck on a confined plot of land instead of the urban »slash and burn« sprawling out all over the place that has been done in the past. Right now, the San Antonio local bus company VIA is conducting very expensive research (up to $7.35K/hour) to establish a bus rapid transit line in my neighborhood even though there are other things they should be spending their money on. I overheard a couple of people grousing about the $1.10 base fare and compute ways to ride around on the bus using only the $.15 transfer slips which I think are a waste of money to be abolished forthwith. In this particular case, the problem is not the money itself but the people spending it. To my knowledge, the VIA Trustees do not ride around in the transit system they govern and thus govern it very poorly. There is a plaza whose renovation went 80% over budget and causes huge traffic problems downtown in addition to looking just horrible.
The point is that it is not money but the priorities established and the decisions made that control/ruin your life. Your husband sounds very ambitious to take on a second job like he is doing, but I have to wonder if there is an alternate configuration that enables your collaborative micro-economy to work smarter with less revenue. After all, the more money we save, the more money banks have to lend out at interest — interest that YOU earn instead of another creditor. I made a very poor decision to trade my economic sovereignty for a post-secondary education that does not solve the root cause of my particular problems and now I am subjugated to paying my way out of it for the next 27-28 months and that I just wasted seven years of my life enriching Sallie Mae, the Everest Institute, the Merchants' Credit Guide collection agency, Wells Fargo, and this other firm Corinthian Colleges engaged to collect the outstanding accounts receivable balance from when I wised up and left the school whose name I cannot recall at the moment. I should have never listened to my mom and dad's counsel about how I was fired from a hotel housekeeping job due to a lack of education rather than my inability to keep the hours. I am the ideal poster child for why it pays to forego post-secondary education.